It Just Is
Hello Friends and Happy Truth Thursday to you
I hope you have all had a splendid week so far.
Here's this week's post.
When you wonder if someone thinks about you in a certain way, it is almost never that they do, but always that it is you that have thought of yourself in a certain way. We see ourselves- sometimes in a good light and sometimes in bad. We live our lives as though others have the same perspective that we have of ourselves. This is almost never true.
Everyone's sight is in their minds, which are coloured and filtered with the experiences each person has gone through. I put on a pair of jeans, I look in the mirror and I see that I look good. Someone else, used to seeing and appreciating a different type of body, thinks - yuck. Is my body in the jeans good or is my body in the jeans yuck? It is neither. My body in jeans just is.
When it comes to value judgements of ourselves and of others, we must be very careful and if at all possible, avoid them at all costs. Instead of judging, we should seek to know and focus on the truth. Why? Because the truth is freeing and it exists at the level of our true identities- our souls. It is not just a hodge-podge of singular perspectives borne out of individual experiences. Take the story of the blind people who each touch a different part of an elephant and thus had differing views on the elephant's physical description. It is a tree (its leg). It is a thick snake (Its trunk). It is a wide fan (Its ears). It is a wall (its body). It is a rope (Its tail). It is hard and smooth, like a spear (Its tusk). None of these descriptions is wrong in itself but none of them tell the truth about the elephant as a whole. Each of us, when we rely on our singular perspective and follow our minds (and that of others) that are blind to the truth, we form an incomplete picture and call that truth.
We have to move from the limited opinions of our minds and search beyond that for what really is. I know I say this a lot, but I can't say it enough. Make time to be quiet. Make time to learn to discern the truth. Make time to hear your inner voice. Make time to listen to it. Make time even though it is not easy to make time, especially as you might wonder what in the world you are doing or listening for. It is nothing more than listening in silence so that you can hear your real self, speak. It takes consistent practice and effort to learn how to listen, but it is worth it.
It is worth it because the next time you fall into a judgement of yourself or you assume you are being judged by others, you have that voice to remind you- this is neither good nor bad. It just is.
I hope this made some sort of sense.