The Blessing of Your Being
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I had initially planned on a different post, but when I read this blog post by James Clear, I decided it was the best reminder I had had all week. So I am sharing it with you today.
Let us begin with a quote from the post:
“There is a vitality, a life force, an energy, a quickening that is translated through you into action, and because there is only one of you in all of time, this expression is unique. And if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium and it will be lost. The world will not have it. It is not your business to determine how good it is nor how valuable nor how it compares with other expressions. It is your business to keep it yours clearly and directly, to keep the channel open.”
If we took a poll and asked how many people have stopped themselves from doing something they wanted to do for fear of the reaction from others (good or bad), I am quite sure that most people will fall into that category. Somehow, many of us as human beings have learnt to ask the outside world what it thinks, relegating to the background, the important fact of the necessity our self-expression. We then suppress ourselves, for fear of failure, as defined by the outside world, and even success- wanting to remain in the anonymity of our thoughts.
How many times have you started something, and talked yourself out of it because you were sure it was not good enough? Do you know, that for every time you blocked the expression of your being, you were denying someone else in the world that unique light, that only you bring into the world. And you did not even know it. In a previous blog post, Raison d’être, we discuss this a bit:
Think about it from the other side. Think about the person that has had the most impact in your life. Or think about the musician that sings or plays your truth. Think about the artist that captures the depth of your soul. Or the doctor that helps you on your road to healing. Think about the person who smiled at you when you were having a terrible day and somehow made that day better. Think about the person that has been the meanest to you, the person that made you suffer, but also made you stronger than you would have been otherwise. Think about every single person and thing that has created some effect on your life and just imagine what your life would look like if each one of these people decided that they were not going to be who they are. They decided that they were going to be scared and thus only exist as a shadow of what might have been in your life. Imagine this and then realise how much light you are denying people (known and unknown) because you are scared to be yourself and refuse to push past that fear.
Anytime you start to talk yourself out of expressing your being - in whatever way you want to- think about the people you are denying. Think about the lives you are leaving in darkness.
Today we are saying, remember all these things, but also know that it is not your place to judge yourself, even as it is not your place, to take to heart, the judgement of others. Your role in life is to work hard to be who you are. It is to constantly surround yourself with reminders that the voice in your head saying “ … not good enough”, is a liar and an imposter. For who is it that decides what is good enough? The majority of people we celebrate today were hardly ever recognised in their time. Last week, I read an article about John Yudkin who in his book “Pure, White and Deadly”, published in 1972, spoke about the truth of the terrible danger of sugar in our systems, but was derided and made an outcast by the nutrition science community. It is now, after his death and the destruction of his career while alive, that we hear the real truth about sugar and overly processed foods.
Truth is who we are. The lie is everything that tells us we should not be who we are because it is not good enough. It does not matter whether or not it is good enough. What matters is that, even in the not good enough state, our work and our lives and our being are all meaningful, not just for us, but for those near and far from us.
There are many times where I have wondered about the point of my blog, but then I get a single message or a response that thanks me and reminds me, that this is not about me or my ego and judgement of myself. It is about continuing to express whatever is in me, and knowing that today, or perhaps ten or a hundred years from now, a sentence or a paragraph, might make even the smallest difference to someone else. It is the same way things written decades ago, have a profound impact on me today. There is no way the author could have known that. But today I am still enjoying the benefits of their being.
I ask you all, that this week, in the face of all our barriers to being ourselves, you remember, that someone somewhere, perhaps now, or in some future time, very likely unbeknownst to you, is benefitting greatly from the person that you are.
So keep being that person, because you don’t know whose life you are changing by just being yourself. Don’t let ego or pride or fear deprive someone of the wonder that is you.
You are the most wonderful person you can be.
And it is an honour and a privilege for us all to be experiencing the world with you in it.
Have a restful weekend all,